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How do you share your experience of sexual abuse?

published4 months ago
2 min read

This is a question I get asked often.

It brings up so many aspects of healing that include a lot more questions.

These questions and ones like them have gotten me to a place where I can now share my abuse with others.

I choose when, how, how much and to whom.

How do I get myself to a place where I matter?

Where my voice and what happened to me matters enough to let others know about it.

How do I get myself to a place where I acknowledge that my abuse was never ok?

And grieve the sensations and pain from that knowledge.

And then be so very vulnerable in order to share that terrible truth with someone I can only pray is safe to share with…..

Will the ones I share with believe me?

What if they don’t believe me, does that mean I’m crazy or that it didn’t happen? (Absolutely not! But some people will try to make you believe that so they can stay in denial).

Can I hold my truth when others can’t?

Sometimes sharing your story of sexual and developmental abuse with others helps in acknowledging to yourself, that yes - it was awful and never should have happened.

It opens the doorway to grief, which is essential in healing.

Sometimes sharing with others does not offer any validation. And in fact is re-traumatizing because they minimize or don’t believe your abuse even happened.

Their inability to hold the space does not mean anything about you or your truth.

You can create safety within your own body.

The ability to trust yourself was violently ripped away from you due to your abuse.

You can trust yourself again and love and honor your inner wisdom.

You are brave, strong and no longer silent.

You do not need to keep sexual abuse, developmental or any form of abuse secret or “in the family”.

I was abused by family and family friends.

It was awful and never ok.

I choose to heal every day.

Sometimes part of that healing includes choosing when to use my voice and share the truth of my abuse.

When I can feel within my body that my body is a safe place to be and I create choice around what, how and with whom I share ….

Then I can share with those who believe me and those who don’t.

Then I can stay grounded in my truth no matter what others reactions may be.

If you want help with this, let me know. I have lots of different tools to make this possible and I’d love to help you find the tools that work for you. My coaching packages help with teaching yourself to learn how to offer safety within.

You are the best person to offer that safety.

If you’ve had experience with creating safety in your body so you can share your truth with others, I’d love to hear about it.

DM me or reply to this email with questions or your tools, I can’t wait to hear from you.