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Trauma on Mother’s Day….
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Mother’s day is celebrated in the US on the second Sunday of the month in May. It started out as a holiday with mother’s supporting world peace…..and has morphed into celebrating mom’s. It’s a day to honor and celebrate the mom’s we love or have those who love us, celebrate us… And sometimes a day to: Feel guilty if our relationship with our own mom or kids is strained… Feel guilty or shameful if we don't want to spend this day with our family (moms, kids, spouse).... Grieve the loss of relationships as a mother of kids or not being able to have kids….or grieve the loss of a relationship to our own moms… Not feeling good enough because we see all our failings….. Or not good enough as we compare & “see” mom’s doing better than us or our moms….. And so many other scenarios when it comes to mom’s….. Any one of these examples and so many more, that I didn’t share, can be connected to our trauma. There are mother wounds from our family of origin, mother wounds from our own children, mother wounds from being unable to be a mom, and other mother wounds.…. It can just be so painful. It can also have layers of trauma. How is your body feeling right now? (I invite you to check in with your experience and give yourself some love right now if you feel sensations that might seem too much or that you want to process - they could be grief or trauma or something else.) I want to honor that whatever your experience is with this day, in the past, or how you want to create something different this weekend….You can trust you. I think this is where the original idea of women celebrating peace comes from. As we learn to trust ourselves we can find a portion of peace to celebrate. And we can bring that to our part of the world. I invite you to give permission to yourself to not be pulled into shame and guilt when others say, “Did you do something for your mom?” or “Did others (kids, husband, church or even you) do something for you?” narratives around Mother’s Day. And also permission to take care of you, if you do feel the shame and guilt (or some other emotion or trauma). And also permission if this day is an awesome day for you and you get to celebrate you and your mom with no trauma response whatsoever, either because you’ve healed those wounds or you never had them. We all are so different and our experiences are different….And I want to honor all of that. And I have found in the honoring is peace. Even when the peace doesn’t feel like peace because it’s hard emotions and trauma sensations. But trusting me no matter what does offer me peace. I see you, I love you. You Matter and are Worthy of Participating in Love no matter what day it is and how you or others celebrate it. And if you need someone to listen to your trauma from Mother’s Day, I’m here. Send me an email or message on my socials. Remember, ❤️ You Matter. Your Healing Matters. You Are Worth It! P.S. I invite you to do a short practice with me to Take Up Space - it's a good one for Mother's Day. |
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I am a Trauma Informed Embodiment Coach. Healing is possible for women who have trauma. Big T, Little T, Complex, Sexual, Religious, any form of trauma. Check out my content and ways we can work together.
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