I am a Trauma Informed Embodiment Coach. Healing is possible for women who have trauma. Big T, Little T, Complex, Sexual, Religious, any form of trauma. Check out my content and ways we can work together.
Not Every Tool Works Every Time - Learning about Trauma is a Start, but not enough...
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Not Every Tool Works Every Time Series Continued... Learning about trauma can be really helpful. In fact, trauma education is on my list of Top Down tools because it can explain why we act certain ways. When trauma takes over, we can understand that we are not crazy, we’re just reacting to what happened to us. And, even if other people don’t get it, learning about trauma can be a way to help them understand us better. But it’s important to remember, we’re not learning about trauma to convince others. How our body responds in trauma - is not for them. It’s for us. It's so we can be kind to ourselves, and give ourselves grace, compassion and understanding for why we react and behave the way we do. It is powerful stuff and helps us heal. But what if, even after you offer yourself grace and understand why you react the way you do, your trauma triggers keep coming back? Is this tool not working? It feels better to be kind and you aren’t beating yourself up as much, but something is still missing. The trauma education tool isn’t working like you hoped. At this point, you might be using all this awareness and education as a way to stay in your head and avoid going into your body. I get it, I’ve done it. It can be scary to go into your body, when it’s filled with trauma. AND trauma isn’t released and healed in our mind. It’s healed in our bodies. But it makes sense that we want to stay in our heads. There is safety that can be found there. Especially when we feel so seen by the educators and by ourselves. When we learn that we are NOT crazy and that how we have been acting is what a body does when it’s in freeze, flee, fight or fawn. And that safety is real and part of healing too. I don't want to discount that. And….if that’s all we use it for, then often, it becomes a false sense of safety that actually keeps us out of our body. So, if you notice you are spending a lot of time in your head, I invite you to try using one thing you learned about trauma and ask yourself… “How does my body feel, now that I know that? (Here you have the opportunity to let your body speak to you about what you have learned….) Can you take a deep breath, pay attention to your body and see what comes up? Maybe you notice a sensation, feeling, image, smell, song, taste, or sound? Or maybe you notice your breath or your heartbeat? Possibly you feel tight or tense.....or feel things releasing or loosening? These are all ways to connect with your body and use the tool of trauma education to help you feel safe in your body again. It's a reclaiming - an opportunity to feel at home in your body and mind together. Remember, ❤️ You Matter. Your Healing Matters. You Are Worth It! P.S. If you want help getting into your body. I am doing a free 2 Day Challenge this week. We can do it together. Here is a 1 minute intro of the topic in our 2 Day Challenge. |
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I am a Trauma Informed Embodiment Coach. Healing is possible for women who have trauma. Big T, Little T, Complex, Sexual, Religious, any form of trauma. Check out my content and ways we can work together.
Not Every Tool Works Every Time Series Continued... This is the last week of this series. Over the course of this last month we’ve talked about when different bottom up tools don’t work and what to do. When.... Meditation Vagal Stimulation Noticing Sensations Don't Work. I also shared what to do when Trauma Education doesn’t work. And today, I’d like to share what to do when the Sideways tool doesn’t work. Sideways means the watcher. It’s how we view our trauma triggers in our body and all...
Not Every Tool Works Every Time Series Continued... In the work of healing trauma, I often invite others (and myself) to notice different things in our body. To notice, means to pay attention. To turn inward. I share something and offer a noticing practice by asking you to notice what is happening in your body.... Or notice what is not happening.... And notice what your mind or heart might be doing.... And notice your breath.... This is a short list of things we could notice. And any of these...
Not Every Tool Works Every Time Series Continued... Vagal Stimulation is a big thing right now. And I love it! Makes sense to me because there are lots of awesome tools included in what is called vagal stimulation. There are tools to stimulate the eyes, the ears, the face.... Try this Eye One Or this Eye One Or this Ear One Or this Facial Acupressure And these are only some of the tools. The vagus nerve is like a traveler. It's called the wandering nerve because it goes all over our body....