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If today is Opposite Day, does that mean it's Not Opposite Day?
Did any of you experience opposite day when you were little?
Did any of you wear your clothes backwards or inside out?
Have dinner for breakfast or vice versa? (We have breakfast for dinner all the time, don't need and excuse for that one...)
Lose a race and then say it's opposite day and say you won......?
Make a pact with friends or siblings and choose a random day to be opposite day so you could drive your other siblings or parents crazy....
Well today is.....
I am cracking up as I write this, remembering all the silliness that my kids have brought into my life over their random opposite days.
I'd love to offer some growth I've experienced around opposites and how important it is to add tools like Ands, Both are True and Fun Surprises to the opposites.
Ands
For instance, I love words that have opposites built into them and these ones have meaning as I heal......
- Left - means both remaining and departed (trauma 'left' in my body And trauma that has 'left' my body)
- Cleave - means both to adhere firmly and split apart ('cleave' to the family and people in my life I choose And split apart from the family and people in my life that are toxic and hinder my healing, just as you would 'cleave' a piece of wood)
What other words would you add that mean something in your healing?
- Here are a few more examples.... Oversight - to oversee and to overlook...... Out - visible and invisible.... Fast - firmly fixed and moving rapidly....
Both are True & Both were True (2 parts)
Part 1 - When I first started healing, the opposites came from my mind with inner wisdom reframes and understanding of trauma beliefs. It felt so good to have new ways to view the world and an understanding of how the old lens was governed by my trauma.
Trauma thoughts like:
- I'm not smart enough to figure this out....reframed to I am smart and this is figure-out-able.
- Everything that happens that is bad, is my fault.....reframed to other people have choice. I can let them own their choices while at the same time be able to figure out what choice is mine to own.
It felt so good to have options. To understand how and when my mind could believe that both were and sometimes are true.
My trauma believed one thing and my inner wisdom was offering another to believe and both were true.
From that place, I could choose which one I wanted to believe.
Powerful right?
Yes, for me this new wisdom felt very empowering.......until I kept having the same things come up over and over again and I just I couldn't get the reframes to stick.
This is where Part 2 comes in....
The reframes felt true in my mind but not fully in my body.
And then I started using all this great info against myself with thoughts like....Does this just works for everyone else, but me? I must be the only one that this doesn't work for. I should just quit now.....sound familiar?
It was so frustrating to have an option for a new thought - one that everyone else was telling me was true and one that logically, I knew was true too - and yet not feel that the new thought was true...
This is why integrating embodiment tools and learning how to listen to my body from the bottom up became a game changer for me.
Once I had the awareness that was experiencing both are true in that moment....meaning, my mind loves the reframe and my body doesn't feel or believe it......
That awareness of both gave me a place to work from.
And through embodiment tools, I could go to the place in my body that was not feeling or believing the new but rather feeling and believing the old. Then I heal that part and release the trauma.
Releasing trauma from my body is powerful.
And that leaves space for the new reframes to fill up my body with energy, sensations and belief that are from my inner wisdom and the woman I am today. Instead of the traumatized child from my past.
Letting the opposites of both be true results in a sync up of the body, mind and spirit connection.
I continue to use this tool each time I can't get a reframe to take hold within me.
Could the tool both are true or both were true help you today?
Fun Surprises in the Opposites
These come by adding movement, people and new experiences to my life.
Movement is a fun surprise and I love adding movement like...... fast, slow....... rest, in motion..... straight, curved...... left, right..... big, small....
People are fun. I love having people in my life who:
- Think and believe differently than me......
- People who do and say things I would never do or say & people who would never do or say the things I do......
- People who embrace that they can be brave, strong, weak, scared, happy, sad, full of laughter, full of tears, all at the same time, and sometimes don't embrace or want to be any of it.
Experiences where I am adventuring to my maximum capacity with adrenaline at it's peak and moments of calm, easy relaxing breathe. Both Fun? Yes!!
The fun these opposites provide is awe inspiring to me and helps me get out of either/or, all or nothing opposite thinking. It adds color and variety to my life.
Fun is healing.
What fun is healing for you?
And if you don't know, what do you like to do or would want to do that is fun? I invite you to consider how that could offer you healing?
So, today I am celebrating my opposites....
Want to join me?
Remember, ❤️
You Matter. Your Healing Matters. You Are Worth It!
Hi! I'm Cami
I am a Trauma Informed Embodiment Coach. Healing is possible for women who have trauma. Big T, Little T, Complex, Sexual, Religious, any form of trauma. Check out my content and ways we can work together.
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